Hi
Bill,
I'm pretty sure that Thais in small (non-metropolitan) provinces are not that homophobic as you fear. They might give you a strange kind of look, yes, but please keep in mind that almost all of foreigners, esp. those who happen to be having to live small provinces of Thailand, get the same kind of look. Why? Maybe because you have different physical features--blue eyes, blond hair, prominent nose, tall, white skin, red face due to sunburn, etc. Thais are friendly-yet-shy, fun-loving people with Buddhism ingrained in their minds. So there's no need to fear that you will experience something horrible like bashing, violence or hatred from them. Thais are not given to apparent emotional displays; Instead their eyes & facial expressions say a lot about what they are feeling about you. However, I am not saying that there're absolutely no gay haters in Thailand, since that kind of people exist everywhere all over the world.
If you could tell me what province you will live in, I would be able to give you a rough idea about the prospective place. But, sure, the gay scene will be relatively slow (sometimes even void) anywhere outside of Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Phu-ket and Chonburi (there're a few more but those're the big four gay cities in Thailand). If vibrant gay life is one of your criteria, choose one of those aforementioned provinces.
If you get time, visit this Web site. Also, maybe if you could get a hold of Bruce, who is currently living his content life in Chiang Rai, he might be able to give you more insight as an
insider. Read his
post (
http://www.thai-language.com/ubb_cgi/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=18;t=000007) & see his
profile-Home page.
I believe Glenn could help shed light on this issue for you, too. He knows us & our country well.