Wife or Mother ภรรยาหรือคุณแม่
Posted: Tue Jun 23, 2015 1:11 pm
I've re-read my copy of Thailand Fever looking for some clue to my wife's behavior.
My wife is constantly talking to me in a way that I would personally reserve for a child. Statements like: "You can take off shoe.", "You can take shower.", "You can get ready to go to store.", "You can wash car.", "You can do this, you can do that." After sever years of marriage, this is nothing new. What is new is that my wife has health problems and I spend most of my time with her. Two years before, I had a life of my own and I wasn't spending the entire day in the same house with her. So the constant "orders" are really grating on me, and I've told her so. On many occasions I've told her that she talks to me the way a mother would talk to a child that she is instructing. But bringing this to her attention accomplishes next to nothing. She keeps it up, and I've dropped down to the level of either referring to her as คุณแม่ or simple stating after her comments "คำสั่งเมียใช่ไหม". I've even marked out pages in Thailand Fever for her to read regarding how Westerner's would consider this to be inappropriate, but the book stays on the desk with the bookmarks still in place. She isn't going to read it, and I'm disappointed in her lack of desire to compromise.
I've got a 55 year old wife talking down to me like I'm a 7 year old, but unfortunately for her I'm in my mid-60s and I support the family on my sole income.
So, is it normal for Thai wife's to talk like this to their Thai husbands? I don't get it. Maybe that's why Thai men end up with mia nois and gigs? What am I missing here in the Thai culture that makes her think her behavior toward me is acceptable?
My wife is constantly talking to me in a way that I would personally reserve for a child. Statements like: "You can take off shoe.", "You can take shower.", "You can get ready to go to store.", "You can wash car.", "You can do this, you can do that." After sever years of marriage, this is nothing new. What is new is that my wife has health problems and I spend most of my time with her. Two years before, I had a life of my own and I wasn't spending the entire day in the same house with her. So the constant "orders" are really grating on me, and I've told her so. On many occasions I've told her that she talks to me the way a mother would talk to a child that she is instructing. But bringing this to her attention accomplishes next to nothing. She keeps it up, and I've dropped down to the level of either referring to her as คุณแม่ or simple stating after her comments "คำสั่งเมียใช่ไหม". I've even marked out pages in Thailand Fever for her to read regarding how Westerner's would consider this to be inappropriate, but the book stays on the desk with the bookmarks still in place. She isn't going to read it, and I'm disappointed in her lack of desire to compromise.
I've got a 55 year old wife talking down to me like I'm a 7 year old, but unfortunately for her I'm in my mid-60s and I support the family on my sole income.
So, is it normal for Thai wife's to talk like this to their Thai husbands? I don't get it. Maybe that's why Thai men end up with mia nois and gigs? What am I missing here in the Thai culture that makes her think her behavior toward me is acceptable?